Your thoughts have created the life you are currently living, and you will be able to create your future with these same thoughts.
Each thought, whether at a conscious or unconscious level is always creating. Think of it as sowing and reaping; your thoughts are the sowing of seeds and your actions are the reaping of those thoughts. There are no thoughts that do not have an effect, every thought moves you in a particular direction.
Positive thoughts move you closer to your positive desires, while negative thoughts move you further away. You can never achieve a positive outcome while filling your mind with negative thoughts. Understanding the power of your mind and controlling your thoughts can lead to a much happier and fulfilling life.
In terms of wealth, it is my opinion that true wealth is experiencing abundance in every area of one's existence. It serves no purpose to be financially successful and spiritually broke, or to have great friends and be in terrible health. A balance of abundance in every area should be the goal.
You must take control over creating the life of your dreams, all while minimizing the flow in of things that you do not want. The thoughts you think are constantly attracting things, situations, people and health into your life. Not believing in the power of this principle will not prevent it from working. Your thoughts are doing one of two things-- they are moving you toward your goals or they are moving you away from your goals. Your past thoughts have shaped the world you live in today, and the thoughts you are thinking today are shaping your future.
Let’s use that powerful knowledge to create a better future!
The power of thought
Where do your thoughts come from?
We have thousands of individual thoughts per day and more than 90 per cent of these occur at the subconscious level. So, how can we possibly be expected to control all of these thoughts? An important first step towards controlling all of your thoughts is to understand how the conscious and subconscious minds work together. Consider the following example. You wake up one morning, and you are not feeling 100 per cent. You may consciously ask yourself, “Why do I feel badly today?" Your conscious mind takes your question, and asks it to the subconscious mind, in an attempt to find an answer to your question. The subconscious mind has been programmed over your lifetime through the results of your thoughts, habits, environments and experiences. It doesn't know right from wrong, up from down, in from out, or black from white. Your subconscious mind only knows what you have programmed it to believe is true.
Therefore, when you consciously ask yourself “why do I feel badly?”, your brain hears “I don’t feel well”, and then it asks your subconscious mind to provide you with some answers, based on your past experiences.
I “feel bad” because:
- I’m fat.
- I party too much
- My relationships stink
- I don’t like my job
Armed with those kind of thoughts, your mind will start to attract more of the same thoughts throughout the day, and more of that same stuff will be attracted to you. Depending on how we answer the questions asked of the subconscious, we will go about our day trying to prove why we feel the way we do. We don’t feel good about ourselves when we look in the mirror, we get in an argument at work or our date does not go well. We are looking for proof to reflect why we ‘feel bad’.
The key to creating better results is to modify the way you think. You can do this by asking better questions of yourself, thereby filling your mind with more positive images. Here are some examples of positive questions you can ask yourself daily:
- Why do I feel so good?
- Why are my relationships so good?
- Why do I feel so healthy today?
- Why am I so grateful?
Similar to the previous example, we will go out into the world looking for proof and answers to the questions we asked. We'll have a great day at work, eat a healthier meal or realize something we should be grateful for. Depending on the questions you ask, you can create different results! Look at your current situation and identify the areas of your life you would like to change. Even if things are going wonderfully well, there are always areas in your life that you can improve on. Maybe your family life is excellent, but perhaps you would like to see a change in your career. You may be financially secure and happy at home, but not healthy enough to have the energy to enjoy it. It’s time to start asking for, and thinking about what you want! Your life can be enhanced in some very positive ways!
Human beings are unique; they have the ability to project an image or an idea of what we want our future to look like. While most of us imagine a bright future, we often don’t hold onto that image long enough to create it in our lives. Rather than holding onto the image of our bright future, most of us focus on today’s images and issues and end up creating more of that for our future. When you focus on something for long enough, you create it! By identifying areas in your life, you would like to improve, you create an image of that desire and start moving towards it. The more vivid the image of the future, the faster we create the outcome. When we have faith in our ability to achieve it and are receptive to that image, we create power.
Your past thoughts have brought you to the reality you call “today”. If you are unhappy with your current reality, you must first take responsibility. While it is always easier to blame others, or place blame on situations, the reality is that you did “think your way into your situation.” Don’t be hard on yourself. Once you accept this responsibility, you also engage the power to change!
The cause and effect of thoughts can be subtle and are often slow moving; adding confusion to this simple principle. The effects of your thoughts can take some time to manifest into your reality. Just be aware that the thoughts you're having today will project on to your life later today, tomorrow and into the future! In order to change your future, you must accept that today is just today…and make the best of it! Change your thoughts today no matter what is happening right NOW. Your thoughts can take you to the best and worst places--- you alone get to decide which place it will be.
I meet thousands of people in my work. Some are incredibly successful and some struggle every day. What makes one person successful and the other not? Is it education, health, looks, geography or luck? Though these may play a small role, they are not what you need to have more of what you want.
Successful people have FOCUS. Consider the magnifying glass. When you move it around a piece of paper under direct sunlight, nothing happens. Stop the movement and focus the beam of light on one spot, and you create FIRE.
Focused energy creates powerful results.
To achieve more of what you want, stay focused on your desires even when the reality of today draws you towards worrying about what you don’t want. If you tend to struggle with relationships, focus your attention on the idea of what a great relationship would mean to you. How would you feel? What would you be doing? How would you act in that relationship? What type of a person would you be if you where in that relationship? Start to act that way today. Do not focus your attention on the last three bad relationships you went through. This is where many people go wrong. They focus on the reality of the last nasty relationship, and then find themselves in another bad relationship, very similar to the one they were in before.
If you struggle with your weight, focus your attention on your ideal weight and image. Think of what it would feel like if you were already at your ideal weight. How would you act differently? What would people say to you? How would it feel to go bathing suit shopping at your new weight? Many people focus their attention on the weight they need to lose and the process becomes about sacrifice. If you focus on “need to lose” you will create more “need to lose.”
Focus on the desired outcome and the mind will help you create constructive habits, to help you achieve your desired results.
Follow these simple steps to help you focus your thoughts on the right stuff:
- Imagine the outcome in the present tense. Example, “I love how I feel in this new relationship” or “I feel great at 128”.
- Consider how you would feel if you had it today.
- Start acting as if you had the desired results today.
- When images of the lack of the desired outcome enter into your thoughts, quickly change your thoughts back to your desired result.
- Look at the areas of your life where you are already getting amazing results. In these areas, you know what you want, you believe you can have it and you live in such a way that allows it to come to you.
Alternatively, in the areas of your life where you have been struggling, you may know what you want, but you have been focusing on not having it. You don’t believe it will happen. Does this sound familiar? “I have tried to lose weight many times and I can’t keep it off” or “All of the good people are already in relationships.” Additionally, you are probably not living as if you already had your desired outcome. Are you living the lifestyle required to be at the weight you desire? Are you acting in the loving way you would need to while in a perfect relationship?
Be careful with your mind; you really will “Bring About What You Think About.”
Evaluate the areas of your life that are ideal and the areas that need work and you will find underlying empowering or disempowering thought patterns associated with each area.
Let’s explore this further with an activity. Identify areas in your life you want to improve. Think about what you want. This can be such items as health, relationships, travel, spirituality etc. Think about what defines success for you. Compare your “success symbols” with your feelings. How will you know that you have succeeded? Do you have a clear picture in your mind of what success looks like? How much do you weigh? Picture yourself in the perfect relationship, walking down the beach, while contemplating your achievements on the perfect vacation.
Write down your thoughts on the blank pages that follow.
Visualize your goals and make them vivid in your mind. Perhaps when you are done your meditation, you can visualize? This is an easy process... simply take some deep breaths and imagine yourself as if you already achieved your desired outcome. How does it make you feel? The next time something goes really well for you and you feel ten feet tall, capture that thought in your mind and remember it. Believe and have faith in your ability to create!
Quite often, we create patterns of thoughts that are self-defeating. The biggest issue created by how we talk to ourselves is that we actually believe everything we tell ourselves!
Imagine that these are the things you say to yourself everyday:
“That might work for them but it won’t work for me.”
“I'm not good at that.”
“I can’t do that”
“I have such a hard time losing weight, and I always just gain it back.
“I’ll never be able to lose that much weight.”
“There’s no one out there for me.”
“The economy is slow so I’ll have to settle for less.”
“There are just no jobs”
“I don’t have the skills to do that”
When you say it, it’s true. You will notice that the reverse is also true for areas of your life that you excel at.
When you say things positive things, as in the examples below, you create those truths in your life!
“I find math really easy.”
“I eat what I want and never gain weight.”
“There are lots of jobs out there.”
“I have a wonderful family and a happy home life.”
“If they can do it, so can I”
“I can do anything I put my mind to”
“The perfect person is waiting for me!”
“I am really good at (insert whatever you want here).”
Change the way you talk to yourself, and change your truth!
As you go about your day, think about how you talk to yourself in relation to where you are in your life.
Using the blank pages included, write down 5 examples of things you have said to yourself that are disempowering / negative / defeatist.
I could never do that!
I don’t have the skills to do that
I am shy and can’t talk to people.
I have a difficult time losing weight.
Everything I eat goes directly to my waist!
I’ll never find someone to love me.
All of the good ones are already taken.
There always seems to be more month than money.
That might work for you but it won’t work for me.
Now turn those phrases into success statements using positivity!
I can do anything!
I can learn any skills I need to, so that I can do what I want and I will attract all of the right people and information to me.
I have an easy time making friends and networking.
I eat healthy food and I am at my ideal weight.
I have found the perfect mate, and we are best friends!
All the money I need is on its way.
The people and resources I require flow toward me.
I am outgoing and friendly.
I can eat whatever I want, and I always maintain my ideal weight.
A Perfect Day, A Perfect Life
Create a paragraph on what a perfect day would be like in your life. Where are you living? What are you doing? Who are you with? What are you eating? How do you feel? Make this image as vivid as possible and use the list above to help create the perfect day. Meditate on your vision after you write it. Remember focus is a powerful tool!
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