If you can relate to the way this woman felt or you have set a goal before and not achieved it and have decided that goal setting doesn’t work for you, please continue reading.
“If one advances in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpected in common hours”.
– Henry David Thoreau
There is a way to achieve your goals every time you set them no matter what your circumstance. Start with end; become the person you would be, as if you had already reached your desired goal.
For example, if you are interested in developing your career and want a new position or promotion (whether in your place of employment or outside), your best course of action is to behave as though you already have the job you want. Not only should you physically dress for the job you want (note how other people in the role dress for work and follow their lead or better), but be sure to demonstrate dedication, passion and a willingness to learn new skills. Act as though the job is already yours and you will find that your desire will become reality.
If you are interested in improving your relationship, act the way you would if you were in that relationship now. Show kindness and consideration, be aware of the needs of the people around you, listen well and demonstrate gratitude. You will soon find you are in the relationship you desired.
As proof of how well this works, think about a goal you have achieved. Very likely your beliefs, thoughts and actions were in sync with the desire.
“It’s like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.” – Patrick Rothfuss
A good example is the way the family dynamic changes the moment they discover a new baby is on the way. Even though they do not have the baby, they prepare for its arrival, pick a name, have a baby shower, paint the room and so on.
For many of us we have a difficult time acting like we have something when we cannot see it in front of us. The first step is to develop a story of what it is like to have your desired goals. Imagine how you feel and act. How do you carry yourself? What do you say about it?
This month, identify a goal and picture yourself as if you already achieved it. Start acting like you already have it. Just like the baby, imagine it is already on its way. You just need to take delivery.
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